This is a common issue for many people. You enter a conversation, and after a few questions, you have nothing else to talk about. The usual advice people give is to “remove the filter in your head” and say whatever comes to mind. But for many people, there’s literally nothing up there.

I’ve been given that same advice in the past and felt as devoid of words as many others do.

It became a bigger issue when I was learning to socialize — going out and talking to people as much as I could — because I realized that many times I wouldn’t know what to say or would have nothing to talk about. So much so that it became my biggest insecurity when approaching someone new. I was able to build the courage to start a conversation with a total stranger, but feeling uninteresting and finding myself with not much to say, time after time, made me feel stuck.

After the usual questions, “What do you do?”, “Where are you from?”, “What brought you here?”, my mind was empty and I struggled to move forward.

I found tips online and tried to follow them, but it made me feel very unnatural. I felt strange needing stuff like that and always a bit out of place at social events because I was trying too hard and not enjoying myself. And people realize when you are trying too hard.

How to Unlock Your Mind

If you want to unlock your mind, take our classes.

Why? Because you will practice… A LOT, and I discovered practice is all you need.

Imagine if every day for the next month you practice conversation until reaching those places where you get stuck and after reaching them, you continuously work out how you can find your way around those obstacles.

What will happen? You will soon realize that you are able to do this.

You train your mind by putting it in that uncomfortable place of not knowing how to continue, time after time. With each instance where you find a way to continue, you get more confident, you lose the fear of getting stuck, and you become aware that you are able to do it.

Building the skill and afterwards the awareness are the keys that will boost your confidence.

One day, in the near future, you’ll come to understand that now you are a person who can always come up with things to say, and approaching a new person suddenly feels much easier. That day you’ll still need to build the courage to start that conversation, but once it starts you’ll be able to handle it because you’ve practiced it many, many times already.

And the great thing about it is that finding the courage to approach someone will become much easier because you will feel confident that after that first ‘Hi’ you’ve got it.